The Last Home Year, pt 3 (take two)

[jon_chaisson]

Feh. Darn LJ crapped out on me and lost Take 1. :(

*ahem* Anyway!

I'd originally posted that I was a bit anxious about taking a few days off post-Thanksgiving Day to spend the weekend with emmalyon. Anxious because I don't have any more paid days off to use, and it being Black Friday, me asking that day off (and probably the Saturday after that, which I'm guessing will be mandatory) wouldn't look good on me. Well, the way I see it, there are two options:

--ask for those two days off, saying that I'll be spending T-Day out of state and there's a good chance that I won't be back home in time to work on Friday (and probably blowing off Saturday)...or...
--saying hell with it and calling sick those two days. The problem with this one is that if I do this after I ask for days off and not getting them makes me look like my priorities are a bit out of whack.

Well hell...I'm looking at long-term priorities here. The way things look, there's a distinct possibility that I could end up moving down to NJ in the springtime to start a new life. I know that I'll have people from all sides asking me if this is actually a smart thing to do, which annoys me because it causes me to second-guess myself, but in reality, I'm going to be 34 in January and I really don't want to be shlepping boxes for the next ten years. I can't physically do it anymore. It's also taking a toll on me mentally...as much as I enjoy working for YC, it's been 4 years and I'm running out of options. I don't want to spend another ten years waiting for an office position to open up.

Besides...as crazy as this might sound, I have a gut feeling that what Emm and I have could work, and work wondrously. I know, I'm being a bit starry-eyed here, but hey, I gotta be an optimist, y'know? ;) I don't want to give this up simply because I'm too scared to make that big step. Sure, I'm all nervous and everything about moving on with my life, but I've got to do it. And she's been there for me every step of the way so far. And of course I'll do the same for her whenever and wherever.

Well, we'll see what happens.

Comments

[urnesha.livejournal.com]

Hmm.. I would ask for the two days off instead of calling in sick. It just seems so obvious to call i sick for thanksgivng yuh know? You can then call in sick for some other less obvious day that you want off later on. Of course this depends though on whether you think you'll get the days off if you ask for them.

As for the moving to NJ, forget those who ask you if it's wise. Regardless of what happens in the future (and I'm rooting for you two), love is always worth it. Nothing else really matters.

[emmalyon.livejournal.com]

He could always call in and say he ate so much that his stimach is still upset... :-p

[lynxreign.livejournal.com]

Yes, he has a very weak stimach

[emmalyon.livejournal.com]

I just want you to have the best possible life you can, wherever that may be.
I certainly *hope* it's a bit closer to me(OK, a LOT closer), but I also think(as you already know), that getting outside of the "comfort zone" and the "family zone" is an important step in really building your own life.
Whatever happens, I am here to back you up.

[joncwriter.livejournal.com]

Thanks, sweetie. Love ya! :) :)

[sleeping-dragon.livejournal.com]

You know, I liked you well enough when we met at WorldCon. Seems like a nice guy and all that. But I think I need to add that the more I read your lj, the more I like you. Screw the people who are doubting your decisions. It's NJ, not the moon. You are a good person and you deserve to be happy. emmalyon is also a good person and deserves to be happy (if only to repay the year she had to live with me). If you make each other happy, run with it. You don't get all that many chances at love. Take it. (Though I do need to say also, breaka her heart and I breaka your face, but I don't think it'll come to that.) :) m

[emmalyon.livejournal.com]

What "repay"? It wasn't that bad...I still speak to you, right?? :-p
(although he DOES seem to be a tad neater than you).

[sleeping-dragon.livejournal.com]

It was late. I didn't have a dictionary or a thesaurus...

[joncwriter.livejournal.com]

Emm, looks like I'm stuck with you. I don't want M. breaking my face. :p Hee!

Seriously, M,...thanks for the encouragement. Sure, she and I have known each other for a while now (and have been rather serious about each other for a few wondrous weeks!). And every time I talk with her my confidence and my will to take this step gets easier and easier. Yeah, love's kinda nutty that way. ;) This could be exactly what I need. :) I promise I won't breaka her heart.

[emmalyon.livejournal.com]

Better not....'cause as previously discussed, I tend to go for areas lower than the face....

[sleeping-dragon.livejournal.com]

In that case, she can keep you. *nods*

[dasmarzipan.livejournal.com]

I agree with Sleeping Dragon, and I'll say this: Figure that the folks who are asking you if this is the "smart" thing to do are just part of the whole experience. By saying this, they are nudging you to see this whole NJ thing from all angles. So when you finally make your (correct) decision, you will be confident that you will have have thought it thru thoroughly (I feel a bit like Thylvether) and will be happy and satisfied at having made the right choice (I refer solely to any relocational consideration, naturally)...

[joncwriter.livejournal.com]

Thankth, dathmarthipan...thath thage advithe. ;)

*ahem*

Yeah, that's exactly what I needed to hear. Thanks!

(btw, all of Emm's friends I've met online/realtime are so damn cool... :) )